I have noticed a very disturbing trend among Christians when it comes to the topic of sex in marriage. Christian literature has inundated women with the idea that it is their primary duty to selflessly submit to their husband’s sexual demands without any reservations. I’ve spoken with dear ladies who have a very confusing and heartbreaking sex life with their husbands due to this poor, unbiblical instruction. As a result, a wife’s sexual life is motivated by paralyzing fear that if she refuses in any way, God will be displeased and her husband will commit adultery. The solution currently being presented?

What once was whole is now broken into pieces. You may get out the glue and try to put it back together the way it was, but you see the imperfections and some of the pieces don’t fit back like they were. It’s not the same, no matter how hard we try, the item is still broken.

Grace is given to us because it glorifies God to do so, not because we are deserving, special, or worthy. Have you ever thought about what a marvelous thing it is that God chooses to bring Himself glory by saving us?

If you are a person that others gravitate toward for help and assistance in solving life’s problems you already know that people come with a variety of problems. Contrary to popular thinking, the greatest need of a counselee is not always an answer to their problem! Rather, the greatest need is to learn to interpret their problems from a biblical perspective. We all need consistent reminders that our problems are not unique, but common to man.

There is nothing you can do that can outdo what has already been done by Christ on the cross. He was the complete, total, and perfect sacrifice for your sin and to think there is anything you can do to add to his substitutionary sacrifice on your behalf is foolish and a slap in the face of the Savior.

In the midst of our personal tragedies we want to believe that God is absent. I have heard bewildered people look to others with pain-filled eyes and ask how God could have let this happen. They wonder if He left on a break and it was in His absence that their world blew apart. People do not want to believe or think that God is in their hardships.

To say that Christians ought not to grieve is a ridiculous statement, yet I have been told it is said to those looking for help after experiencing loss of some kind. That is cruel and amounts to telling them to “get over it.” Christ has come to comfort those who mourn.

It is encouraging to me when a counselee tells me they are struggling with the flesh. It is a primary indication that she is truly regenerated and indwelt by the Holy Spirit. Those who are not regenerated will have no fight within them for righteousness and purity of heart.

What is a true friend and how do I find one? What about my non-Christian friends, can I keep them? What are good boundaries for friendships? These are just some of the questions I have wrestled with as I have walked with Christ.

It is a wonderful thing to serve those who believe in Christ as their Savior and Lord! A while back I met with a woman who is struggling to achieve the balance of accepting and working, resting and doing, being sanctified and being sanctified. Each of these (and many more) has been done to us and is to be done by us in some mysterious way.

Most people like to help others and that is a good thing because we are surrounded by hurting people every day. They may be in your small group or Bible study, over your backyard fence, or someone you meet in line at the store.

At first blush, it looks as though we are told to be without defect or sin. That is not quite what the Lord had in mind when He spoke to His disciples. There is a difference between the command to grow and change into holiness and Christ-likeness (which is the point of being perfect as in Matt. 5:48) and perfectionism.

If you are going to parent your teens biblically you have to teach to the heart. Heart centered discipline is Gospel based discipline. Even if your teen is unregenerate you should still teach, rebuke, correct, and train in righteousness at the heart level (2 Tim 3:16).

Do you know that one of the two major reasons for sleeplessness that leads to fatigue in daily life is unbiblical responses to the problems of daily life? When problems are not handled in a biblical manner, conflicts remain unresolved and fester all day and into the night.

When appropriate communication is taking place, it preserves the unity in the relationship, clears up misunderstandings, clarifies expectations, expresses emotions and feelings, and reveals the thoughts and intentions of the heart.

Ours is the great and wonderful story of redemption — our buy back from sin and death.

“If we want to live less stressful lives, we must learn to live with a single agenda: God’s agenda…We tend to live under two agendas, ours and God’s, and the tension between them sets up stress.”

We must become a part of the solution to the theologically illiterate women in the church. Theology is the backbone of counseling.

You will learn that God is sovereign over the people and events of life and to believe that He intends to take the worst of sin and the most impossible situations and bring out of them your good and His glory.

The Biblical Counselor is trained in the use of Scripture and the principles of biblical counseling. We do not base our counsel on mans wisdom, opinions, experience, or concepts of behavior, but we seek to bring the full range of biblical truth to focus on the counselee’s need.