“If we want to live less stressful lives, we must learn to live with a single agenda: God’s agenda…We tend to live under two agendas, ours and God’s, and the tension between them sets up stress.”

We must become a part of the solution to the theologically illiterate women in the church. Theology is the backbone of counseling.

You will learn that God is sovereign over the people and events of life and to believe that He intends to take the worst of sin and the most impossible situations and bring out of them your good and His glory.

The Biblical Counselor is trained in the use of Scripture and the principles of biblical counseling. We do not base our counsel on mans wisdom, opinions, experience, or concepts of behavior, but we seek to bring the full range of biblical truth to focus on the counselee’s need.

Friendships between women can be honoring to God or dishonoring to Him.

The cross of Jesus Christ is for the purpose of the Gospel, and we Christians cannot ever forget we need that cross and that Gospel every waking moment of our lives.

Although the time of personal disclosure and confession is very difficult both for the offender and the offended person, we have seen tremendous fruit result from this kind of accountability.

Ephesians 2:10, quoted above, shows that He planned obedience for us. He delights in our obedience because it shows our love for Him.

Keep the truth always at the forefront of your minds. He who keeps you will present you as blameless on the day of our Lord Jesus Christ.

The choice to obey or disobey is presented in what we are called to do and the attitude that we bring to obedience.

Peacemaking is a large part of being a biblical counselor or discipler. Have you been in the position to be a peacemaker yet? In the Beatitudes, Jesus says, "Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God" (Matthew 5:9). As always, we must...

Matthew 7:3-5 reminds us that the sin we see in others pales in comparison to the level of deception we have about our own sinfulness.

God works everything to the praise of His glory, which is the greatest good. And for those who love Him, He also works everything for their welfare.

When doubts are consuming you, make a choice to believe God. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5).

The disciplinary process set forth in Matthew 18 is not to be carried out in anger or vengeance; it is the most loving thing the Church can do for her own – even the act of putting the unrepentant sinner out of the fellowship as an unbeliever.

The goal in the conflict remains repentance for the sinner, reconciliation with God and man, and restoration to the fellowship of the church and the family.

Continue to urge repentance until you are confident it will do no good. Enlist the help of other believing family members, if you can, and prayer from those you trust.

Asking questions aimed at the heart is much more effective than making statements at them.

The goal in all Christian relationships is the reconciliation and restoration of the sinning brother or sister to the fellowship of believers. In undertaking any disciplinary action, the motive is not “punishment” but love.

Something that may surprise you is that good communication begins with listening.