Are you a fault finder? Are you always more willing to point out someone’s faults and flaws than you are to compliment them or to build them up?  Are you ready to pounce on something another person does wrong doesn’t do it as well you you can do it?   
It is from the sinful heart that we beat others down by focusing on their faults and failures (Matt. 7:3-5). We hammer them into a false submission instead of bringing them hope through the gospel, the good news that Jesus died to deliver them from all their sins. We ought to spend the time we use reminding others of what failures they are and instead show them grace and mercy.
Matthew 7:3-5 reminds us that the sin we see in others pales in comparison to the level of deception we have about our own sinfulness.  What is revealed in the counseling room is that people prefer to inspect the spec in the other persons eye long before they look at the log in their own. 
“Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? “Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? “You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
Relationships and friendships are ruined by spec inspecting and log ignoring. Each person must look at their own sinful issues and be willing to repent and change if they want to be considered a credible source for a biblical confrontation. 
A refusal to repent of your own sin while picking out every fault of another person will over time ruin every relationship you have.  No one wants to be around those who are fault finders on a consistent basis!  
How sad that Christians operate this way.  It is time for us to repent and live what we say we believe and stop tolerating “acceptable sins” in ourselves and then in one another. When will we become sick enough of our sin to want to change? When will we be grieved enough to want to throw it all away from us, to put it OFF and leave it in the grave where it belongs?
We know better, yet we keep going back to the crypt to examine that dead old man who lay there. Jesus walked out of that crypt and so have we! We have been made alive in the newness of Jesus Christ! LIVE LIKE IT!!