rationalizing and justifying our behavior it is very easy to overlook the truth that the human heart is set on gratifying self.
to you, what your spouse did was not your fault, it was their decision. What your husband did was of his own
volition. He had a lust or desire of the heart that was not
fulfilled. The lust or desire was most
likely illegitimate meaning it was not based in Scripture or was selfish and
been someone else, because this sexual sin is a HEART issue.
to be in a good church are taught that they are to deny themselves, life is not
about them, and they are to live and use their lives to glorify God. However, we are still sinners and often we struggle with the
gargantuan desires of the flesh. Ephesians 4:18-19 says sinful desires make a
person’s heart hard to the truth of God’s commands and can lead even a
Christian to act as an unbeliever does.
say they never imagined themselves as the object of the desire of another
woman. Their self-image led them to find it unbelievable that another woman
besides their wife would find them attractive or desirable.
women. Some were promiscuous before marriage and had other sexual partners
right up to their wedding day. They enjoy the attention given to them by women
and don’t think there is anything wrong with flirting after marriage.
into” the relationship; that they did nothing to promote it or are not
responsible for what happened.
give excuses for being found with it on their computers. They will say that
they don’t know how it got there, or they were surfing the internet for
something innocent and something just popped up on their screen with no
prompting from them. They may claim innocence saying they allowed a friend or
their child to use the computer and this is how it came back.
pornography and blame his wife for his “need” to do so. Men will say that their
wives are not satisfying them sexually or often enough. Some will even try to
legitimize their use of porn by saying their wives have a lack of interest in
sex so they don’t want to bother them with it.
adultery; too many to list actually! Whatever the reason given you must
understand there is really only one
reason; they have a sinful heart.