bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie
against the truth. James 3:14
discussed. I believe that is a
spiritually healthy response when something someone says or does affects me
to do the same thing: examine your heart and honestly evaluate if you may be a
hide their sins under a cloak of righteousness, they justify the way they feel about
things and sometimes even use Scripture to attempt to validate their sin. I
have had women tell me their anger and bitterness are justified and then begin
to tick off a mental laundry list of someone else’s sin that has “Made me
angry” or “Caused me to be bitter.”
You must understand that no one can “make” you anything! Your responses are a
choice you make as a result of what is going on in your heart. They are
evidence against you of whom or what your heart is focused on and even worships!
heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false
witness, and slanders. Matthew 15:19
Women living with bitterness are struggling deeply with evil thoughts that originate in the heart.
more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9
at what you have done to others. That is your biblical responsibility, to learn where your fault is in the matter. The Lord asks that you take 100% responsibility for your part
of the problems and then put your full effort behind resolving your part of them. A bitter
person does not like to admit that any of the responsibility belongs to them.
It is preferable to be the “victim” in the relationship having been the only
at the center of problems. Ironically they always seem to be the one who is
misunderstood, hurt, ignored, mistreated and so on. As much as everyone
wants to be innocent and the victim, it is not possible to be innocent all of the time. I have
found that even if a person was innocent in the original situation
they have ceased to respond biblically to it and sinned in their own heart. Bitterness must be addressed because it is blatantly ungodly to continue in such a pattern of living.
you will need the Spirit of God actively working in your heart and convicting
you of your sin to begin this process of correcting the heart of bitterness. Because
your heart is more deceitful and desperately wicked as Jeremiah says you cannot
know the depths of your own sinfulness.
that He is for you in this process. King David -a sinful man- is also
called a man after God’s own heart. Psalm 139:23-24 contains a wonderful prayer
for someone seeking God’s help as they examine their heart.
and know my heart; test me and know my thoughts. Point out anything in me that
offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
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