Today I would like to introduce you to a new guest blogger, Marcella Franseen. Marcella is a contributing writer at Counseling Solutions where this post was originally featured.
outside God’s definition in the garden of Eden is sin. God defines the context
for sex to be enjoyed as one man and one woman in union before Him.
leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall
become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not
ashamed. – Genesis 2:24-25 (ESV)
not the point of this article, though. My point is how I will relate to those
who act out their sexuality in sinful ways. I’m speaking of homosexuals.
groups: Jews, blacks, homosexuals,
conservatives, liberals, Evangelical Christians, Muslims, etc. When we put them in a group, we can make sweeping and
general statements to define them. We can forget their individuality and their
humanity. We can forget how much we have in common.
make an important point. Let’s say a homosexual or lesbian couple moves next
door to me. I am no longer
dealing with a defined group of people, but two individual human beings. Two
people I have more in common with than I don’t have.
bill down and eating healthy so they decide to plant a garden. Because they
just purchased a home they don’t have a lot of extra cash and show up at my
door asking to borrow a few of my tools in order to get started. What do I do?
their face? Maybe I’m better than that so I politely lie, saying I do not have
the tools they need? If I have a Christianized heart, I will kindly loan them
may go even further (Mark 10:45). I may offer to help them plant their garden.
I may get my hands dirty in the soil with them, share gardening tips, cold
lemonade, even a laugh or two.
neighbors, I will also get to share my relationship with Jesus. Not in a
self-righteous, “I have Jesus and you don’t” kind of way, but sharing Jesus for
the sake of Jesus.
- Because He is wonderful, and kind, and sufficient.
- Because He is greater, more magnificent, than any earthly
relationship or love we could ever experience.
- Because He is life and hope and love itself.
- Because He is the only Savior.
invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. For by him all things were
created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or
dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for
things, and in him all things hold together. And he is the head of the body,
the church. He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, that in
everything he might be preeminent.
fullness of God was pleased to dwell, and through him to reconcile to himself
all things, whether on earth or in heaven, making peace by the blood of his
cross. – Colossians 1:15-20 (ESV)
loving those who agree with us is really only loving ourselves. There is no
merit in that (Luke 6:32-36). It is a type of love which requires no effort, no
lack of selfishness, no understanding of God’s love.
for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. – Romans 5:8
is the love God has shown us. This is the love Christians should have for
others, regardless of who they are, a love that for Christ’s sake transcends
any enmity, lifestyle, race, sex, or group identification.
and sinners were all drawing near to hear him. And the Pharisees and the
scribes grumbled, saying, “This man receives sinners and eats with them.” –
Luke 15:1-2 (ESV)
people to “clean up their act” or make themselves worthy before He included them
and showed them mercy and kindness. He loved first, sitting down, eating, and sharing fellowship
with those society considered the lowest of low. We see this example of love
throughout the New Testament.
adultery He did so knowing she was guilty of the sin she was charged with.
He did so knowing of her adulterous past and current adulterous relationship.
knowing the sinful nature of the people He was healing and raising up. (John
heart of each of them. (Matthew 9:10)
people drawn to you?
or His miracles, but He gave Himself to them anyway. People were drawn to God
and away from their sin, not by the harsh, judgmental example of the Pharisees
and scribes, but by their encounter with the person of Jesus Christ.
God not love us first, when our hearts were dark with sin and undeserving of
His love and grace (1 John 4:19)?
by God’s grace, but my self-righteousness can hinder the work of Christ. The
only hope for the world is the person of Jesus Christ. This is where Christians
and homosexuals have important common ground.
through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ (John 3:16).
holiness and sanctification (1 Thessalonians 5:23).
privilege and common ground of being despised by certain groups in this nation.
Pastor Charles Worley would like to round-up all the homosexuals and put them
in a prison camp as blights on society.
the Christians and put them in Abu Ghraib as terrorists. Due to the poor
economy, maybe they could place us all in a prison camp together. If so, I should allow my homosexual bunk mate to choose
which bed he wants first. Maybe they would rather sleep on the floor than near
a Christian. In that case, I should offer to take the floor.
inerrant authority of the Word of God. This isn’t a call to worship love
between people in place of the holy God who is love. This isn’t an argument for erasing parts of the Bible to
make following Jesus Christ more culturally acceptable. This isn’t an article
about the need for Christians to lose their “saltiness” or “hide their light
under a bush” (Matthew 5:13-16).
every other perversion of God’s plan for sex, i.e. adultery, fornication, rape,
etc. Lying to homosexuals, or anyone else caught in sexual sin, is not loving
them (Colossians 3:5).
their saltiness, to shine even brighter. The more our culture hates us, the more
we should love it. The more the culture demands our death, the more we should
be willing to die (Luke 6:27-36). Isn’t this the very mind of Christ–that of a
servant? (Philippians 2:6-11).
me into a group labeled, “Evangelical, right-wing, conservative, homophobic,
the truth is I am an individual. And in Christ, I have a choice. I can choose
to plant a garden with a homosexual neighbor. I can choose to show them kindness and love and respect,
even if they do not show it in return. I can choose to share with them the one
thing I value above all else, my relationship with Christ.
Assuredly not. The point is Christ freely gave Himself to me. In Him, I am free
to give myself to others, to choose to love and to pay whatever price that love
about this world came through the Son of God, Jesus Christ, in love and in
righteousness, laying down His life for sinners, for the very ones who rejected
Him, shamed Him, and killed Him.
that love and in that cost (Hebrews 12:2-3, Philippians 3:8-11). The answer to
my title question, “Why should I make friends with homosexuals?” is because
that is what Christ did–He became your friend (John 15:15).
three children. She knows the power of the Gospel of Jesus Christ to save,
heal, and transform a person’s life because she has experienced it herself. She
and her family currently reside in Greenville, South Carolina. She has served
as a pro-life center volunteer, Center Director, and currently as a facilitator
for a post-abortion Bible study called “Forgiven and Set Free.” She’s
passionate about the sanctity of life from conception to the grave and equally
as passionate about the grace of God, through Jesus Christ, for those who have
chosen abortion or are involved in the industry.