ungodly culture. If you haven’t read those blogs, I suggest you begin there.
is difficult is an understatement. We are facing unbelievable obstacles in
raising our children to be godly in an ungodly world.
a culture we have given this age group adult permission to play a lot and work
a little. We have encouraged them not to take this time in life seriously in
any way other than doing well in school.
fear of man, everywhere they go. They feel the pressure to conform and perform
for their peers. As parents we really want our children to be known for their
character, We assume the children of our friends share our morals and values
and won’t lead our teens astray.
companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20
faced with the dating dilemma even if your policy is no dating. If your Christian
child goes to private school they are surrounded by peers who are most likely
dating and prossibly having sex. You may soon be faced with the school dance
problem, a date for prom, and the big football game. The Christian teen that
does not have a pool of people to choose from for these kinds of events is
lonely and often angry they can’t be like everyone else. They don’t care what 2
Cor. 6:14 says, they just want to go to homecoming like everyone else!
counseling center is parents who come in just blown away by their teenager who
begins spouting different beliefs about God and matters of faith. These are
kids who would say they “got saved” or
“asked Jesus into their heart” can tell
me all the “requirements” for salvation, can point to a time in their life
where they prayed or walked an aisle and many would say they have been
baptized too, but now they live like
to have gotten saved, if there is no evidence of regeneration in his or her life,
if there is no fruit of that salvation, you would be wise to question if there
has been a true and real conversion. Due to improper presentation of the
gospel, I believe we have churches full of unconverted people trying to work out
a salvation they do not even possess. They
can tell you what you want to hear, however there is no life apparent. These
are people who think they
are regenerated, but in actuality may not be!
have not ever truly made that transition from death to life (Ephesians 2:1-3).
I fear many of us are delusional in our felt beliefs that our children are
truly regenerated when so much of the evidence we see points elsewhere. The
hard truth is that being a good Christian parent and raising them
“right” guarantees nothing. No one is grandfathered into the kingdom
of God, and no one chooses to enter without the prompting of the Holy Spirit. Each
of our children must be drawn to God by God and then each of
them must decide what they are going to do with this Jesus and the salvation He
offers them. But what about Proverbs 22:6?
who “do it all right” are guaranteed children who will follow God. You can take
them to church every Sunday and Wednesday, keep them away from unbelievers,
secular music, television, movies and everything else and your children may
still rebel and refuse to repent. There are plenty of diligent parents who have
children that break their hearts
up a child in the way he is bent (as a sinner) when he is old he will not
depart from it.”
born “bent toward sin.” Both the Darby and Young’s Literal Translation of the
Bible support this view.
decide what theological truths they will accept and embrace. Will they become
more Reformed or Catholic or Lutheran or Orthodox, or Armenian? Will they
decide to believe that sign gifts are for today or that a person can
“lose” their salvation?
revealed that “Nearly two-thirds say a person can be truly religious and
spiritual without being involved in a church.”
our faith. Our faith leads and guides our children while they are young, but
there comes a time when that is just not enough, when our kids have to acquire
their own faith with Jesus Christ.
God for seasons of their lives but we cannot promise them our salvation. This
walk of faith is something each of our kids has to do alone, with the Lord.
At times it will be difficult to watch them sink under the murky waters of
sinful decisions but that is what is sometimes needed for our kids to begin to
see their need to grow and change. Their very trials and hardships and
questions of faith will help them to better trust Him, even when their
questions create more questions than answers and even when they come upon some
very dark and lonely periods of time.
While our faith is a beautiful thing, it is no more useful to them than a
precious and fragile china tea set. Nice to look at but impractical for our
purposes. Real faith is grabbed with both hands and used like
that travel coffee mug you may take with you each day. But even
that mug is useless unless you fill it up and take it along.
navigate these tumultuous waters of the teen years recognize that the issues facing you and your
child are primarily heart issues.
have an issue- perhaps a life dominating sin problem that has reached the point
that they you as parents have to intervene. You
have the opportunity to use their problem as a launch-pad for presenting the
true gospel to them.
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