Today’s guest blogger is AJ Singer. I have known AJ for some time, and know her to be a woman who is passionate about God’s purpose for single women in the church. She has a particular focus on repentance from sexual sin and the importance of purity in the church at large, and the Christian single in particular.
external ramifications. It is not any less difficult or complicated than
battling any other habitual, life dominating sin, such as an eating disorder. Eating
disorders are difficult to deal with because you still have to eat. You can’t
just abstain from eating. You have to learn new behaviors, regulate food
intake, and practice self-control on a moment by moment basis. However—you
still get to eat, and can learn to
enjoy food in a God-honoring way. A
married woman fighting the sin of masturbation still has sex with her
husband—Scripture is pretty clear to married couples about the necessity of
coming together frequently to avoid sins and temptations such as these! You
must learn self-control and to be others oriented (in this scenario, husband
oriented) in this, but at all costs, you fight for purity in your marriage
or how little you masturbate. You can’t have “just a little bit” of this in
your life. You do not have a spouse to fulfill physical desires. The
expectation is radical amputation of all sexual activity. You cut it off. You
throw it away from you, and you run as though your life depends on it (because,
honestly, it does). You never
participate in self-gratification again. There is no room for the sin you once
enjoyed, and unless the Lord moves you into a marital relationship, that
feeling may be something you never
experience again. This can be very difficult to accept, especially if you have
had a long standing habit of this sin. Sometimes the fight is overwhelming, and
it may seem akin to trying to bail out the Titanic with a Sippy cup. It is easy
to believe your efforts are futile and worthless (especially when reality has
the upper card), but you keep bailing out the water cup by cup because it’s the
right thing to do. You fight even when you think the battle is lost; you act in
faith, believing it is not. You have to realize this as a spiritual battle,
because victory makes no sense in the material world.
thinking, and no longer struggle with this. For the majority, though, it isn’t
that way. This internal war might be the most difficult battle you have ever
been in; it is akin to trench warfare. You gain an inch, and fall back a
foot—tomorrow, you might move forward a few feet. The key is to never stop fighting.
your theology stinks, your obedience to Christ won’t be any better. Dividing
the Word of God rightly is essential to winning this battle. You have to do more than know good theology,
though—you must be willing to put it into practice (radical amputation) and
live it out (believe it to be true and act on it in faith) moment by moment.
you’ve been fighting for years, and you are battle-weary; you may have recently
learned this is sinful behavior, and you are struggling to stop. With any life
dominating sin, it takes a lot out of you—but the battle yields a peaceable
fruit of righteousness that is inexplicable unless you’ve tasted it.
(2 Cor. 10:5) to the obedience of Christ. I suggest you write out the entirety
of Romans 8 and begin memorizing it to help in this battle.
God. He has allowed this to be your
reality, and it is good. How is it good? It is good because all that God does
is good, for your good, and for His
glory (Romans 8:28). This is the perfect way for the Lord to teach you what you
need to know. Maybe you need to learn that He is more than enough, and this is
how He is teaching you this hard truth. Were there another way to teach this to
you, He would have used another way. No trial is wasted on error. It is
perfectly designed to mold and shape you more and more into His image.
altar before the Lord, willing to never pick them back up again, because it
glorifies God to do so. Lay it down; walk away. This might be repeated a lot at
first, but over time those trips to the altar with this particular sin become
less frequent because you stop trying to hold onto it.
when you just don’t want to fight anymore. There may be times where you just
pour your heart out before the Lord with seemingly inconsolable tears—trusting
that He will meet every need, in His time, in His way. At moments you might
think it is more than you can handle, but Scripture says it is not (1 Cor.
10:13). Choose to believe what Scripture says is true over how you may desire
to interpret it. Be a good theologian.
hope in Christ alone. Proverbs 13:12 says Hope
deferred makes the heart sick, But desire fulfilled is a tree of life. Instead
of focusing on that which has been deferred or prohibited in your life, place
your hope in something that does not need to be deferred. Placing your hopes in
marriage to fill the void of companionship or ease the tension or longing
within will always fail you. Christ must
always be enough (married or single).
one unchangeable truth: the war is already won; Christ is the victor. Rest in
His victory, and move forward in it.
of who you are in Christ, you have the ability to change, and even greater than
that, you have the God of the universe assisting you, caring for you, loving
by Julie Ganschow, taken from The Process
of Biblical Change
About AJ: AJ’s writing comes from experience–after 19 years of struggling with sexual sin on multiple levels she has experienced the freedom only Christ can give. Her writing comes from a biblical perspective on overcoming habitual/life dominating sin. It is her heart’s desire for others to experience the forgiveness and freedom found through the Word of God and transforming work of the Holy Spirit on the heart level. If you wish to contact AJ regarding today’s post, please comment on this blog and I will get you contact information for her.
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