Today’s guest blogger is Stacie Gibson. Stacie is a wife and mom of four kids from New York. She serves alongside her husband, Matt at Grace Baptist Church, Dansville NY where they both are certified biblical counselors. Stacie is certified with ACBC and IABC and loves sharing God’s Word with women. In her “free time” you will find her homeschooling her children, reading, and spending time with her family.
The autumn season can be a busy time of year for all of
us. Our kids go back to school, fall sports start up, Sunday football, men gear
up for hunting, and we finally get back into a routine after summer break.
Routine and activities are very good, but sometimes we leave out something
important: other people. The art of serving others in our home I am afraid has
become a lost virtue in the American church. Neglecting to show hospitality
comes down to a matter of the heart. If we say we love God, but do not love His
people and the lost, this says something about us and our character.
New Testament word for “hospitality” (Greek Philozenia) comes
from a compound of “love” and “stranger.” Hospitality has its origin,
literally, in love for outsiders, according to Dave Mathis from Desiring
God. So, showing hospitality means opening up your home to strangers. If
you read through the New Testament, you will find that hospitality is to be
extended to our church family, missionaries, and biological family (Romans 12:12-13, 1 Peter 4:9, 3 John 5-8.).
an age of individualism and busyness, hospitality has become a lost virtue in
our Christian communities and can be shoved off pretty easily because we don’t
have time for it or leave it for the “Martha Stewart” type of women that have a
home that is decorated according to Pinterest standards. The New
Testament makes it clear from passages in 1 Peter 4:9 and Romans 12:12-13 that all Christians are commanded to be hospitable,
it’s not just a good recommendation.
used to think that hospitality was like entertaining. Matt and I are very
social and always have been before salvation and presently. We were known as
“party animals” by having people over for big cookouts, NASCAR
races, football, etc. So when I first heard that I was commanded to show
hospitality as a new believer I said proudly, “Yeah, I do that!” It was
quite humbling to know that I was wrong! Sure, it’s fine to have your buddies
over for a NASCAR party, but true, biblical hospitality is not having the same
people over and over with the goal of fun and entertainment.
mind when thinking of people to have into our home is found in Luke 14:12-14,
banquet, do not invite your friends or your brothers, or your relatives or rich
neighbors, lest they also invite you in return and you be repaid. But when you
give a feast, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will
be blessed, because they cannot repay you. You will be paid at the resurrection
of the just.”
invite family and friends because we know that from other NT teaching, you
should. But I think what our Lord is saying is that having people into our homes
that can’t repay us is a blessing. Our communities and churches are filled with
people that need to be refreshed and encouraged with your love and service.
Most likely, the people Jesus is talking about don’t’ get invited out
often because they have a disability or just seem “needy.” Inviting those
into your home that can’t repay you can be hard and inconvenient because you
may not know them well or they can be a “drain” on you, but we are to “encourage the fainthearted,
help the weak, be patient with them all.” (Thes. 5:14)
in our church and community. In the New Testament, Christianity was a “home
centered movement” due to the circumstances of not having a church building as
we do now. Christians held church in their homes and used their homes as an
entrance for spreading the Good News. When Matt and I first started attending
Grace Baptist Church, some of our fondest memories were times spent in the
homes of other Christians. This act of love was very impressionable on me as an
unbeliever. I couldn’t believe that people actually sacrificed their time and
money to have us over (a couple they barely knew) when they could have been
doing a million other things. I did not have the privilege to grow up in a
Christian home, so being able to see up close and personal how a Christian home
ought to look like was such a blessing to me. I am certain God used these
people and their homes as means to bring me to conversion a few years later.
Hospitality is such a great testimony to those that are lost
because it’s the Gospel in put into action. I also want to mention that
if you have children, hospitality is wonderful for a few reasons: 1. It is a testimony to them that Jesus is
important to their parents 2. It helps
them to serve and look out for the interest of others 3. Builds character in
them and will help them in their adult years to practice hospitality. Don’t
think for one moment that your kids will just know how to invite others into
their home by way of osmosis. They need to watch and learn!
tells us in 1 Peter 4:9 to show hospitality without grumbling. Having
people into our home definitely takes a lot of work and sacrifice, but we are
to do it without all the moaning and groaning. We are to show hospitality with
an attitude of thankfulness because we love God. Paul tells us in Philippians
2:14 to “do
all things without grumbling or disputing.” All things means not complaining under your breath as
you mop the floor knowing that the family of 6 you have coming over will scuff
it up J I used to have a very poor attitude when my husband would
come to me after church service and say “Honey, I invited a new man over
for lunch today.” My first thought was how inconvenient this was for me
and that I just wanted to go home and rest. I can testify firsthand that
hospitality has helped me become more flexible and patient because not all
situations can be planned out and in my control. God is sovereign and gives us
these opportunities to show that nasty sin in our heart and cause repentance in
areas we need to grow.
our heart towards loving the Lord and loving our neighbor and make the most of
every opportunity the Lord has given you to practice hospitality.
1 John 4:11