I have been spending the past few days with my elderly
father. He wanted to take a trip to see a friend who goes away for the winter.
Because of his advanced age, it was not possible for him to go alone although
he intended to do so. My siblings and I were very concerned about his plans,
and so I offered to go along with him on the trip. Frankly, I manipulated my
way on the trip.
father. He wanted to take a trip to see a friend who goes away for the winter.
Because of his advanced age, it was not possible for him to go alone although
he intended to do so. My siblings and I were very concerned about his plans,
and so I offered to go along with him on the trip. Frankly, I manipulated my
way on the trip.
This has been an eye opening experience.
I have always looked at my dad as larger than life. He is
from the Greatest Generation and while he has never been an emotional man, he’s
been a good father and was a faithful husband to my mom during their 63 year
marriage. He loved her to the day she died and he’s not been quite the same
since.
from the Greatest Generation and while he has never been an emotional man, he’s
been a good father and was a faithful husband to my mom during their 63 year
marriage. He loved her to the day she died and he’s not been quite the same
since.
He always had a job, we had a nice home, and he worked very
hard. He cared for our home and yard between golfing and his other sporting
activities.
hard. He cared for our home and yard between golfing and his other sporting
activities.
When I was a child, my dad had all the answers. He seemed to
know everything. An avid reader, he
was able to tell me anything I needed to know. He could fix anything that
broke, and he only needed a pattern to make something we needed. It is from him
that I developed my love for history, museums, and nature. I wish I had
appreciated it more when I was young.
know everything. An avid reader, he
was able to tell me anything I needed to know. He could fix anything that
broke, and he only needed a pattern to make something we needed. It is from him
that I developed my love for history, museums, and nature. I wish I had
appreciated it more when I was young.
My childhood memories are pleasant. While he was stern and
demanded obedience, in retrospect he was desperately trying to reign in a
rebellious girl in a world and society that was changing faster than he could
keep up with.
demanded obedience, in retrospect he was desperately trying to reign in a
rebellious girl in a world and society that was changing faster than he could
keep up with.
I wish I had appreciated him
more when I was young.
more when I was young.
He is not the same man. In the sunset of his life he is not
steady on his feet and frequently loses his balance. In spite of this, he still
bowls and dances. He can’t hear well, even with 2 hearing aids so he misses
most of what is going on around him. Never one for small talk, he spends large
blocks of time in silence. He dozes off-
a lot.
steady on his feet and frequently loses his balance. In spite of this, he still
bowls and dances. He can’t hear well, even with 2 hearing aids so he misses
most of what is going on around him. Never one for small talk, he spends large
blocks of time in silence. He dozes off-
a lot.
Once able to answer any question, his memory has faded badly
and now everything has a label. He can’t be left alone for an entire day. He
can tell you a story from WWII or his early life but he gets easily confused
and forgets what happened thirty minutes ago.
and now everything has a label. He can’t be left alone for an entire day. He
can tell you a story from WWII or his early life but he gets easily confused
and forgets what happened thirty minutes ago.
This is not my dad.
I have had that thought more times than I can count on this
trip. There are sparks of the dad I knew, but overall, he is feeble and
it is clear he doesn’t have many more years of independent or even assisted
living left.
trip. There are sparks of the dad I knew, but overall, he is feeble and
it is clear he doesn’t have many more years of independent or even assisted
living left.
This makes me sadder than I can express. When giants fall
the sound echoes throughout the land.
the sound echoes throughout the land.
Let's Keep in Touch!
Subscribe to get our latest content by email.
Never miss out on a special offer or opportunity!
Beautifully said. I have been on this side of it and as I approach the 50 year mark, I see the other side that awaits for me to take my turn as the falling/en.
Beautifully said!