Faith Community Church recently started a series of Sunday School classes that has been addressing the men and women of the church separately on various topics. Designed to be Different: A Biblical Perspective on Masculinity and Femininity is the title of the series and our recent post Submitting to an Unbelieving Husband was part of that series. This week our pastor’s wife was given the task of speaking on The Woman as the Weaker Vessel from 1 Peter 3:7 while the men were taught The Husband as Protector. As I was perusing our BC4Women archives I ran across a post by Julie Ganschow from the perspective of “strong women.” In my experience, as a perceived “strong woman,” we may need to consciously allow others to protect us from our tendency to shoulder more than is beneficial for us and our family. Open communication will be key. ~Ed.
I am blessed to be friends with several strong women. They are just constitutionally strong, generally unflappable and very capable. Some stay home with their children, one or two have jobs they work from home, and others work full time or part time, but all have children and are involved in some kind of ministry in addition to their “real jobs.”
These dear women confess to struggling with their strength at times. The plain truth is, strong women sometimes struggle with being strong. It seems they do too good of a job at it and therefore it is hard for those around them to understand or even accept that they are in need of comfort, tenderness, gentleness, and protection. They have always been the ones who keep on keeping on, in the face of sickness, sorrow, fear, and personal tragedy. Their responsibilities are fulfilled, shopping is done, dinner is on the table and there are clean socks and underwear every day in spite of what internal or external upheaval is taking place.
Times of Weakness
But wow, there are times when even the strongest of women need a place to go and hide or take refuge. They desire to run and find a broom tree to lie under (1 Kings 19), or to be gathered into the strong arms of one who loves them and be stroked and comforted with gentle words of understanding.
The problem is they are perceived as being nearly invincible and not in need of such comforts. When the day comes that strong women go looking for arms stronger than theirs they often come up empty. It seems they can be too good at being strong and capable, so it becomes the norm that they are expected to “just handle it,” whatever it is.
This leaves them wounded and longing for someone who understands. It chips away at the idea of their husband being their protector and defender. In truth, men married to strong women say they have little need to protect or defend most of the time so they get out of practice and just assume that their wife is okay.
God of All Comfort
I recall when a friend of mine was tending to her mother’s final needs. Her husband travels a lot for his job and is more of the analytical type. My friend is brilliant, and completely capable. However at this point in time, she was uncharacteristically emotional. Her husband did not know what to do with his suddenly needy wife and asked her what she wanted him to do for her. She told me later that there is little comfort in having to tell someone how to comfort you.
It does seem that strong women tend to be understood by God alone, and He is their only real comforter.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ. But if we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which is effective in the patient enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer; and our hope for you is firmly grounded, knowing that as you are sharers of our sufferings, so also you are sharers of our comfort.
2 Corinthians 1:3-7 (NASB)
What are your thoughts? Do you have a reputation as a “strong woman”? What is your motivation? Do you have a hard time letting others serve or protect you? Share in the comments!
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