Author: BJ Rathbun

Who to Be, Above All Else, Before You Marry

Have you ever stopped to reflect on why guarding our hearts is a Scriptural command, not just a suggestion? Are you guarding your heart at the level of a proven veteran? Or a distracted youngster? Wherever you are on your journey as a single woman, I want to speak frankly with you for a moment about guarding your heart. There are heaps of resources available on this topic, and some of them I highly recommend. But I am writing as someone who failed to guard my own heart both before my marriage and as it was beginning. Tragically, I have been separated from my husband for just over a year now, and if I could, I would spare you the tremendous pain and turmoil I have walked through.

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