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Will You Keep Trusting As You Suffer?

Will You Keep Trusting As You Suffer?

This week I was talking with a woman who has been a victim of what could be called constructive dismissal. In the past, she had been put into a position where she was forced to resign so that she would not be sinning. After resigning, those who had put her in that position lied about her reason for leaving and other people believed the lie. In the meantime, the Lord provided her with a new place of work where she has been able to help other people in their Christian lives. When she was forced to resign, she was not certain of having this new occupation and was brought to a position of trusting the Lord alone for her future.

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Is Small Talk Worthwhile?

Is Small Talk Worthwhile?

Maybe you are an introvert like me, and you just don’t want to put yourself out there. You’re not willing to be vulnerable in this way. Maybe you are of the mindset that you don’t have time for any more friends, so you keep your eyes on the horizon as you walk through the halls at church, and you breathe a sigh of relief when you make it to the car without being stopped. I have to admit, this has described me a time or two. I like to make productive use of my time, and chatting in the hallways does not usually seem to fit that goal.

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Advice for Troubled Marriages Part 2

Advice for Troubled Marriages Part 2

Many years ago, a woman proclaimed to me that her husband wasn’t a Christian because he didn’t meet the checklist she had in her Bible. Unfortunately, I see a lot of self-righteousness in the spiritually superior woman. Because of this, she becomes very unpleasant to live with. She believes she knows more about the Bible (and biblical parenting) than her husband ever will, and she lets him know that by undermining nearly every attempt at spiritual headship he makes.

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Where Do You Find Your Identity? Part 2

Where Do You Find Your Identity? Part 2

If life has changed dramatically for you, never to be the same again, you are probably reeling, uncertain what to do or where to go from here. You know that you were created to bring glory to God, but you don’t see how you can do that in your present condition. The truth is, my dear sister, you can bring glory to God in any condition He sovereignly ordains for you, no matter how unwelcome it may be in your view. This truth will never change. Your identity hasn’t changed, either. You may feel incomplete as you are now, but God says you are complete in Him.

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Advice for Troubled Marriages

Advice for Troubled Marriages

I love to meet with women in my biblical counseling ministry. Of course, most of them come to see me because they have a problem in their lives and are looking for biblical answers to it. Not a week goes by that I don’t have to tell someone something difficult. I don’t like to say it, and they don’t like to hear it but it must be said.

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As One Whom His Mother Comforts, So I Will Comfort You

As One Whom His Mother Comforts, So I Will Comfort You

Over the last few years, there has been a little family of raccoons in the hollow tree in my front yard. This same mama raccoon has raised several litters of babies here, and we have watched each one as they’ve grown, learned to go out and gather food with Mom, then finally gone off on their own. It’s been fun watching this raccoon mommy with her babies. She scolds and corrects them. She gives them a boost from behind when they are struggling to climb up the trunk to their nest. She guides them around the neighborhood, and shows them how to return home safely. Then one day mom and babies are gone and I know that she has successfully reared another brood.

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Let’s Be Redemptive Online

Let’s Be Redemptive Online

What if we made our tone more winsome, less negative, or more redemptive? Rather than simply posting and commenting and tweeting about what we are against, what if we focus instead on using redemptive language? Redemptive language would be gospel-motivated and gospel-rich, bringing the reader’s attention to Christ, and to God’s Word. We have a hope that is far greater than today’s current political, cultural, and moral climate. If we simply state what we are against, without giving a reason for the hope that we have, then isn’t our gospel witness hindered?

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Where Do You Find Your Identity?

Where Do You Find Your Identity?

A life-changing event like this forces a person to examine their identity. Who am I now? Who am I if I can’t be who I thought I was? A believer in this kind of trial will be forced to take a hard look at where she has rooted her identity. If she doesn’t line it up with Scripture, she risks depression, sorrow, and bitterness. This is exactly where I was as my “new normal” became clear to me. I found myself in a kind of limbo, realizing that I had grounded my sense of who I was in what I could do. When this became clear, I knew that I had to deconstruct the person I had built and start over. This time though, it wouldn’t be me doing the building.

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Real Life Lived by Dying to Self

Real Life Lived by Dying to Self

Nineteen years ago I asked her what the most important lesson was that she had learned. Her answer was to put the cross into practice daily by dying to self and living for the Lord. Interestingly, this lady who has daily died to her sinful self since learning of its importance about 60 years ago, has experienced the real life that everyone longs for. By living this life, she has inspired countless others to live for the Lord as well.

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Reflections of A Homeschool Mom

Reflections of A Homeschool Mom

This past Saturday my youngest son graduated from college. I consider this another parental milestone, even though he is married and on his own. It was an important day for me because it brought me a sense of accomplishment. See, I homeschooled all three of my boys. Not all three of them all the way through, but two of them for at least 6 years, and one all the way through high school. I began homeschooling when our oldest finished 3rd grade and our middle son finished Kindergarten in a private school.

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Three Mistakes You’re Making With Your Feelings

Three Mistakes You’re Making With Your Feelings

Sin is sin, right? Lying is a sin. Adultery is a sin. Murder is a sin. I’m pretty sure we can all agree on those. But then there are other things—attitudes of the heart—that we sometimes want to debate. For example, if we feel angry about something, and we hang onto that anger in our hearts, but we don’t take it out on anyone and we don’t become vengeful, is that a sin? What about envy or resentment? If someone seems to have a better life than we do, and we find that we just don’t really want to be their friend, is that a sin? After all, we’re not commanded to be friends with everyone, right? How about depression? Can we just say that we have a melancholy personality, and be excused from seeking to be joyful in life?

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A Picture of Jesus

A Picture of Jesus

It is in the “not going well” that I saw a picture of Jesus. No, His face wasn’t in the flooring design, but I saw Him in my sweet husband as I came unglued (no pun intended) and didn’t respond well at all to the circumstances we faced all day Friday as we struggled to get even 3 rows of planking to stay together.

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Biblical Counselor Case Studies

Biblical Counselor Case Studies

Today, we are announcing the option to watch case studies guided by certified biblical counselors from Reigning Grace Counseling Center. These are the some of the same case studies we offer in our training courses that are accepted by the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC), and the International Association of Biblical Counselors (IABC) to fulfill their certification requirements.

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Life Wisdom

Life Wisdom

Yesterday a 16-year-old friend rose out of the baptismal water, symbolizing the new life she has in Christ. When I intercede for this young woman, I pray the inspired words of Paul: “…asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God…” (Colossians 1:9, 10).

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