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“I don’t know what happens! One day, I’m happy and everything’s fine. The next day, even though nothing has changed and there are no new problems, I’m miserable, mean, can’t stop crying, and all my problems seem completely insurmountable! It’s like I’m Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!” These aren’t the words of any particular person, but they sum up well the lament of those who suffer from PMS[i][ii]. This monthly cycle of everything that was fine yesterday being devastating today is a very common theme in counseling, and I suspect in all of womanhood. So, what’s the deal with PMS? Did God just decide to play a cruel trick on women? Was he mad at Eve for eating the fruit, and decided to take it out on all of her daughters forever?
“Shame is an intense feeling of angst that makes you wish you could evaporate; extreme humiliation and remorse; a despairing of life from abject embarrassment. Shame is deeper than guilt. It is not based on having done something wrong so much as a soul ache of being wrong at the core. Shame is more piercing than condemnation where the reality of judgment is mentally apprehended from an outside arbitrator. With shame, we palpably feel our own depravity in vivid self-realization.” http://www.acts17-11.com/shame.html.
I am unashamedly a big fan of Star Trek. I love the campy original series with Spock and Captain Kirk, the steady leadership of Pickard and Ryker in Next Generation, and the wanderings of the crew of the spaceship Voyager. Some of my favorite episodes feature dealings with the Borg. For those who are unenlightened in the wonders of Star Trek, the Borg is a predatory, alien species of cybernetic organisms who add to their number by assimilation. Once the Borg gets ahold of a species, they became a part of the hive by being assimilated. Individuality is non-existent. Their conquests are completely and permanently absorbed and physically altered to look and function like a Borg drone. The Borg have one mind and one purpose, and their goal is the total assimilation of the universe.
2018 New Year's Resolution I was listening to our local “positive and encouraging” Christian radio station on the way home from the pool this morning, and the disc jockeys were having a discussion about New Year’s resolutions. These types of conversations always pique...
The house is quiet and empty this morning. It is the first day that things are “normal” after the Christmas holiday since all our children and grandchildren have gone. When I was a young parent with three little boys running through the house with nerf guns and action figures, I enjoyed the sounds as they played Batman and Spiderman with each other. Christmas morning was such fun!
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Every day of our lives we are surrounded by anger. From impatient drivers to impatient people in a line, to conflict in personal relationships, anger is everywhere. In the counseling work that I do, I see the damage that anger does in the lives of countless people. Thankfully, many excellent books have been written about this subject that have been of invaluable help in counseling
“Crooked Paths, Our Free Will, and a Loving God" “Therefore, gird up your loins of your mind, be sober, and rest your hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” 1 Peter 1:13 (NKJV) Have you ever encountered sudden...
“A blog? Why would I write a blog? Who would care about anything I have to say?” Those were the words I uttered to my friend Jody when she suggested I begin to write on biblical counseling issues for women. She did a fair amount of arm twisting to get me to post my thoughts online, but as I prayed about it and thought about it, I saw the need for women to share the truth with other women on issues that impact us in our daily lives. Once I decided to do it, I determined that I would never be anything but real about the issues, even if it meant exposing sins I struggle with to provide help, healing, and hope to the readers.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year when we enjoy time with our friends and family at Christmas- themed gatherings. At least that is a reality for some Christians but not all of us. Many Christ followers find religious holidays such as Easter and Christmas to be difficult times to spend with family; especially if family members are unbelievers.
Self-sufficiency is an attitude of the heart that says, “I am the solution to every problem I encounter. I must step into every conflict, save every relationship, keep peace where there may be strife. If there is a problem, I must see how I can help.”
Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. James 1:2-4
A familiar passage of Scripture greets us today. It seems that we all have enough troubles on every side, don’t we? As I think about the depth and severity of the “various trials” we encounter it is very easy to become depressed and morose.
As unbelievable as it may seem, we are fast approaching the end of another year. Social media is all about your year in review, throwing up collages and slide shows featuring all of your most liked posts, new friends, and photos. But taking a moment each December to think over the past twelve months isn’t new, and it certainly was not Facebook’s idea. As each year passes, we all think about the things that happened, the people we spent time with, and the ways that life has changed.
Thing’s have been stressful in my world for the past couple of months. It seems that everything has been what I would call out of control since my dad died in late September.
As I was sitting on an airplane very early this morning, I was thinking and praying about yesterday. Actually, I was confessing. You see, things have been a little rough lately, very busy, and very stressful. Lots of traveling, a new laptop that arrived broken yesterday, some health issues for my husband, and on the home front, my house has been a mess for the past 7 months as we try to finish some remodeling projects.
When I first began my training to become a biblical counselor, I purchased Jay Adams’ Christian Counselor’s New Testament and Proverbs. It was a helpful tool as I began to familiarize myself with the most-used verses and passages for biblical counseling. I’m glad I...
We are excited to introduce our newest blogger here at Biblical Counseling for Women. Elizabeth Bowman is a student in Reigning Grace Counseling Center’s online training program.
Why Is It So Hard to Change Directions?
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” ~~ 2 Corinthians 10:3-5.
In my last post, we met Joyce and Judy, a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law whose relationship has gotten off to a rocky start because of some presuppositions and expectations that were based only on their own desires, instead of a biblical foundation. Each of them has spiraled downward into disappointment, frustration, and bitterness because their expectations were not met. So, now what? How do we get Joyce and Judy back on a solid footing to build a relationship that brings glory to God? As I see it, there are three elements that must be present if they are going to remedy the problems they are facing: Repentance, communication, and love.
Life during the past year had been the school of knocks for Karen. She had been slandered, betrayed, hurt, and seen loved ones pass away. Each time she thought she was getting back on her feet, another blow would come. The last one was when she heard that a good friend had believed lies about her and the relationship was adversely affected.