A life-changing event like this forces a person to examine their identity. Who am I now? Who am I if I can’t be who I thought I was? A believer in this kind of trial will be forced to take a hard look at where she has rooted her identity. If she doesn’t line it up with Scripture, she risks depression, sorrow, and bitterness. This is exactly where I was as my “new normal” became clear to me. I found myself in a kind of limbo, realizing that I had grounded my sense of who I was in what I could do. When this became clear, I knew that I had to deconstruct the person I had built and start over. This time though, it wouldn’t be me doing the building.Read More
Nineteen years ago I asked her what the most important lesson was that she had learned. Her answer was to put the cross into practice daily by dying to self and living for the Lord. Interestingly, this lady who has daily died to her sinful self since learning of its importance about 60 years ago, has experienced the real life that everyone longs for. By living this life, she has inspired countless others to live for the Lord as well.Read More
Sin is sin, right? Lying is a sin. Adultery is a sin. Murder is a sin. I’m pretty sure we can all agree on those. But then there are other things—attitudes of the heart—that we sometimes want to debate. For example, if we feel angry about something, and we hang onto that anger in our hearts, but we don’t take it out on anyone and we don’t become vengeful, is that a sin? What about envy or resentment? If someone seems to have a better life than we do, and we find that we just don’t really want to be their friend, is that a sin? After all, we’re not commanded to be friends with everyone, right? How about depression? Can we just say that we have a melancholy personality, and be excused from seeking to be joyful in life?Read More
If you have prayerfully done everything you can think of to help her, and your counselee still seems stuck, remember that there is only one Sovereign, all-knowing Person, and that’s not you. Go to the Lord with your counselee, asking Him to reveal the problem. Ask your counselee to pray. Hearing her prayer may even give you new information!Read More
Gospel-centered justification means that I do not look to my own Christian performance to make me acceptable to God. God’s acceptance is not based on anything we do, but what Christ did for us (Romans 8:1). The Christian’s standing before God is not in jeopardy ever because we are clothed in the righteousness of Christ.Read More
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