When I take a look around, it is clear we live in a world with a Zena the Warrior Princess mentality. In case my reference is outdated, I will clarify by saying women have been taught to be tough and brash, harsh and hard. We have been encultured to stick up for ourselves and stand our ground in this dog eat dog world. The message of the cross is opposite of what we are taught; it seems the idea of becoming humble and meek is absurd to many women.

Meekness and humility are often misunderstood as being quiet and shy, speaking in hushed tones, and blending in with the background. I am glad to say that understanding does not fit with the biblical definition of meekness or humility, which is strength under control.

The Lord Jesus Christ is portrayed as meek throughout the gospels, but in my opinion Philippians 2 reveals the essence of meekness and humility.

Instead of being motivated by selfish ambition or vanity, each of you should, in humility, be moved to treat one another as more important than yourself. Each of you should be concerned not only about your own interests, but about the interests of others as well. You should have the same attitude toward one another that Christ Jesus had, who though he existed in the form of God did not regard equality with God as something to be grasped, but emptied himself by taking on the form of a slave, by looking like other men, and by sharing in human nature. He humbled himself, by becoming obedient to the point of death —even death on a cross! Philippians 2:3-8 (NET)

Jesus had power over life and death and He chose to submit His will to that of His Father.

Scripture tells us God holds a meek and humble spirit in high regard (1 Peter 3:4). This doesn’t mean when you are unjustly accused or assaulted you sacrifice your rights to your accuser; you can and should seek justice. As you are doing so, accept God’s dealings with you as good. Don’t resist Him or fight against Him, and be satisfied with the outcome.

This is how women in difficult marriages can still be meek, humble and even content. It is certainly not easy to resist the flesh, but by His grace you can do it! You can respond in love and with compassion toward an unkind husband with trust and confidence that God is working in your heart and life. Think about what God’s priorities are in your marriage, and focus on them. Entrust yourself to God and depend on Him to supply your needs.

Meekness and humility result in a quiet and peaceable spirit that is too full of the desire to glorify God to be bothered with anger and bitterness. Gaining these two character qualities does more to bring joy and happiness than attaining power and control ever could. This is where true riches lie.