And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. Matthew 7:3-5 (NLT)
When a relationship is broken it is our natural tendency to point to the other person and place the blame on them. They said or did something we don’t like and this is how we justify our anger toward them. It is preferable to look somewhere other than at ourselves. When this becomes the way of handling every conflict a self-righteous attitude will develop.
When a person wants to address the reason for fractured relationships they must begin with themselves. The examination process begins right at home by asking the Lord to reveal the contents of your heart. Ask Him to show you how you have sinned against others (Psalm 139:23-24). You may be wondering why begin with your heart and how you have sinned. Re-read the Matthew 7 passage carefully…Jesus tells those who prefer to begin with how they have been sinned against rather than deal with their own culpability that they are hypocrites!