Disclosure or Discovery in Marriage Counseling

As part of helping a couple reconcile the relationship, we require that the sexual offender do what is called a full disclosure. In a full disclosure, the offender is required to confess his or her sexual sin in detail to their spouse. Prior to this confessional meeting, they spend time examining their life and detailing all the ways they have sexually sinned against their spouse the years. This can be a very daunting and uncomfortable task to undertake, but it is totally necessary for reconciliation to take place.

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Three Lessons Learned: Reflections of a Rookie Counselor

Because of the training I received through Reigning Grace Counseling Center, I was thoroughly equipped to minister the Word to those first few counselees I worked with. But that didn’t mean I wasn’t still a little scared! So, in my next couple of posts, I’d like to share with you some of the things I’ve learned in my first few years of formal counseling.

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Are You Being Hospitable to Others?

Our towns and cities are full of people from different countries and cultures. Hopefully, we also have people in our churches from diverse backgrounds. Seeing believers from different cultures, countries, and languages worshipping God is an expression of him being glorified by people from all nations. Such diversity enriches our churches as we are brought beyond our limited perspective as we share the experiences and insights of those who are quite different from us.

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Why Not Divorce?

Divorce is the rendering of the covenant that two people made first to God and then to each other. Both people made solemn, sovereign, and covenantal promises to love, honor, serve, bear with each other, and maintain sexual purity, until the day they died.

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Three Lies the World is Telling Your Teen

It Gets Better “It Gets Better” is a campaign that was started in 2010 to encourage and affirm LGBT youth who were suffering bullying and physical threats because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. The campaign’s purpose was to reduce the number of suicides among these youth who, having grown up in a world steeped with sexual confusion, are now despairing and hopeless because they have same sex attraction or think they were born in the wrong body. The campaign seems to have had some success in suicide prevention among this group of adolescents, but it is based...

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Age, Wisdom, and Beauty

I will admit that I am a woman who struggles with aging. I have wrestled with heading toward 60 years old. I have resisted allowing my hair to become its (new) natural color, and when I look in the mirror I see a face that is no longer recognizable to me. In fact, I’m often shocked at the woman I see looking back at me in the mirror and I wonder, how did this happen? When did I become “an older woman”?

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Cheerleaders Wanted

I recently had the opportunity to cheer on my soon-to-be daughter-in-law in her very first marathon. She had trained for months for the event, and was so excited to be in the race. My husband and I cleared our schedule far in advance of that day so that we could trace her route and move along it, staying just enough ahead of her that we would be ready to shout and cheer as she ran past. Finally, at the finish line, we saw her in the distance, keeping a steady pace toward the ribbon. We shouted and waved, erupting...

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Where Does Your Heart Focus?

Where does the human heart focus when life is not how we want it? When it is thinking about something in the present, very often it is on how things would be better if they were different. If there have been difficult conversations, the mind may go out to rehearse what was said in the past and how things could have been said in a different way. The mind may then go to future possible conversations, figuring out how to ensure that things go the way that you want them to.

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Advice for Troubled Marriages Pt. 3

We have come to the final installment of my series on common problems in a marriage. You can read part 1 and part 2. Today, we will tackle the difficult subject of love. Love should not be a complicated issue in marriage, right? Isn’t that why we get married? We “fall in love” and plan to live happily ever after. There is nothing wrong with the desire to be loved. However, when “being loved” turns into the demand to “feel loved”, a very painful and destructive corner is turned in the marriage.

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