Will You Keep Trusting As You Suffer?

This week I was talking with a woman who has been a victim of what could be called constructive dismissal. In the past, she had been put into a position where she was forced to resign so that she would not be sinning. After resigning, those who had put her in that position lied about her reason for leaving and other people believed the lie. In the meantime, the Lord provided her with a new place of work where she has been able to help other people in their Christian lives. When she was forced to resign, she was not certain of having this new occupation and was brought to a position of trusting the Lord alone for her future.

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Is Small Talk Worthwhile?

Maybe you are an introvert like me, and you just don’t want to put yourself out there. You’re not willing to be vulnerable in this way. Maybe you are of the mindset that you don’t have time for any more friends, so you keep your eyes on the horizon as you walk through the halls at church, and you breathe a sigh of relief when you make it to the car without being stopped. I have to admit, this has described me a time or two. I like to make productive use of my time, and chatting in the hallways does not usually seem to fit that goal.

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Advice for Troubled Marriages Part 2

Many years ago, a woman proclaimed to me that her husband wasn’t a Christian because he didn’t meet the checklist she had in her Bible. Unfortunately, I see a lot of self-righteousness in the spiritually superior woman. Because of this, she becomes very unpleasant to live with. She believes she knows more about the Bible (and biblical parenting) than her husband ever will, and she lets him know that by undermining nearly every attempt at spiritual headship he makes.

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Where Do You Find Your Identity? Part 2

If life has changed dramatically for you, never to be the same again, you are probably reeling, uncertain what to do or where to go from here. You know that you were created to bring glory to God, but you don’t see how you can do that in your present condition. The truth is, my dear sister, you can bring glory to God in any condition He sovereignly ordains for you, no matter how unwelcome it may be in your view. This truth will never change. Your identity hasn’t changed, either. You may feel incomplete as you are now, but God says you are complete in Him.

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Advice for Troubled Marriages

I love to meet with women in my biblical counseling ministry. Of course, most of them come to see me because they have a problem in their lives and are looking for biblical answers to it. Not a week goes by that I don’t have to tell someone something difficult. I don’t like to say it, and they don’t like to hear it but it must be said.

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As One Whom His Mother Comforts, So I Will Comfort You

Over the last few years, there has been a little family of raccoons in the hollow tree in my front yard. This same mama raccoon has raised several litters of babies here, and we have watched each one as they’ve grown, learned to go out and gather food with Mom, then finally gone off on their own. It’s been fun watching this raccoon mommy with her babies. She scolds and corrects them. She gives them a boost from behind when they are struggling to climb up the trunk to their nest. She guides them around the neighborhood, and shows them how to return home safely. Then one day mom and babies are gone and I know that she has successfully reared another brood.

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Let’s Be Redemptive Online

What if we made our tone more winsome, less negative, or more redemptive? Rather than simply posting and commenting and tweeting about what we are against, what if we focus instead on using redemptive language? Redemptive language would be gospel-motivated and gospel-rich, bringing the reader’s attention to Christ, and to God’s Word. We have a hope that is far greater than today’s current political, cultural, and moral climate. If we simply state what we are against, without giving a reason for the hope that we have, then isn’t our gospel witness hindered?

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Where Do You Find Your Identity?

A life-changing event like this forces a person to examine their identity. Who am I now? Who am I if I can’t be who I thought I was? A believer in this kind of trial will be forced to take a hard look at where she has rooted her identity. If she doesn’t line it up with Scripture, she risks depression, sorrow, and bitterness. This is exactly where I was as my “new normal” became clear to me. I found myself in a kind of limbo, realizing that I had grounded my sense of who I was in what I could do. When this became clear, I knew that I had to deconstruct the person I had built and start over. This time though, it wouldn’t be me doing the building.

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