We continue today with Pastor Bruce Roeder’s excellent exposition on the topic of submission with respect to MEN. I believe that before us as women can truly understand this critical area of marriage and the importance God places on it, we need a full orbed view of it. Pastor Bruce presented this to our training class at RGCM. A Husband cannot demand respect. This is a big problem in marriage with some men. They want respect; they want submission from their wives. They want it so bad they are willing to sin to get it and thus have made an idol…of respect. Our pastor said this at the men’s retreat in 2006: “Husbands are no where directed in Scripture to force or manipulate their wives (or any one else for that matter) to be in submission to them through intimidation, threats and harsh treatment.” – Pastor Ted Groves Pastor Doug Wilson in his excellent work “Reforming Marriage” is even blunter than Pastor Groves in commenting on Eph. 5:25 where husbands are to love their wives as themselves: “A man who does not take particular and tender care of his wife, and who then expects her to be fruitful and lovely, is not being a true husband at all; he is a dolt-the Greek word for this is probably meathead. A man must love his wife sacrificially and he must not expect anything but weeds unless he tends the garden with extraordinary care.” Pastor Doug Wilson, Reforming Marriage Let me suggest to all you men, not just the married ones that this is a key leadership principle that has a life application that goes beyond the context of the immediate family. If we want to lay the axe to the root of pride then this is the path, outdo each other in giving honor to the other-Ro. 12:10. For it is true humility and it’s a strength, never a weakness.
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Julie Ganschow has been involved in biblical counseling and discipleship for more than 25 years. She is passionate about heart change for life change. Julie is a gifted counselor and teacher, has authored numerous books and materials for biblical counseling, and co-authored a biblical counseling training course. She is a featured contributor in GriefShare and a frequent retreat and conference speaker. Julie is the founder and director of Reigning Grace Counseling Center and Biblical Counseling for Women. She has been writing a daily blog about women’s counseling issues since 2008. Julie holds a doctorate in biblical counseling, in addition to an M.A. in biblical counseling and certification with the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC). She also serves on the Council Board for the Biblical Counseling Coalition. She makes her home in Kansas City, Missouri with her wonderful husband Larry. You can find her blog at bc4women.org and information about her ministries at rgcconline.org.
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